musings from a lost beachgirl

Thursday, April 27, 2006

Things that are really bothering me..

Ok, there is so much going on right now that is bothering me and really on my last nerve...

1. Hey Brittany, if you and your white trash, no talent husband weren't always out boozin it up, you wouldn't have to fire the nanny that let your child fall out of his high chair... DCS should have been called the day this child was born... reason, having STUPID PARENTS... Some people should be forced to jump out of the gene pool!

2. Denise Richards.. you're a slut and a back stabber... She told her good friend Heather Locklear to divorce Richie Sambora, then we see Denise and Richie canoodling at some trashy hideaway... That's soooooo not cool..

3. Gas prices and politicians... FOR THE LOVE OF MAN!! If I have to hear one more politician whine about the rising gas prices, I am going to lose my freakin mind... Hey, politicians, quit writing letters to the President and pass some freakin legislation that will keep gas prices low and keep those oil baron fat cats from lining their pockets.. oh and another thing, if there is oil in my back yard that will reduce gas prices, DRILL AWAY, that goes for Anwar too...

4. My Super Sweet Sixteen on MTV.... Should have been called spoiled little brats that need to have their butts kicked into next week!

5. Tori Spelling- Tori, you're a no talent hack, get off my TV!!

6. Lady behind me in traffic the other day... "hey trash, the upside triangle that reads YIELD, means just that! So don't freakin honk your whimpy little Honda Civic horn at me just b/c you almost rear-ended me b/c YOU weren't paying attention!"

7. Ken Lay- Let me cry you a river! I hope you fry for what you did to those people, stealing their money so you could throw lavish parties, shame on you!

8. headline: "South Carolina Senate Passes Death Penalty for Repeat Child Rapists"... REPEAT??!! You're going to let them REPEAT before you give them the death penalty??!!

9. MySpace should be called MyPlace for pervs!!!

10. WHOOAAA NELLIE!! So sad that Keith Jackson is retiring, the Rose Bowl will never be the same without him!

I think that's about it... It's been a bad week all around, here's hoping next week will be better..

~Cheers

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Learning more

After talking with my dad this morning, I am learning more about how Little Neil died. Neither he nor Jimmy were wearing their seatbelts and were thrown from the truck. The truck rolled over on Little Neil. Jimmy is doing much better. He was up and walking for a bit yesterday, so that is certainly a blessing. Jimmy will get to go to his father's funeral.

Little Neil will be buried in a western shirt, and blue jeans.. all guests are encouraged to come as they are. Little Neil did not like suits, and he did NOT like ties.. I can understand that b/c Neil's neck was the size of a manhole! Although they live in Illinois, and many of our family members are spread throughout the country, we all consider Charleston to be home.. and in keping with that theme, the family has asked that we make donations in lieu of flowers to the Charleston Aquarium. I think that is a wonderful idea, flowers will fade but a donation to a charity, museum, or an aquarium will go on and on..

I wanted to thank everyone who has commented, expressing your condolences, and prayers for my family.. that means a great deal to me. I ask for your continued prayers as my family travels to the funeral of a dear, sweet man.

Sunday, April 23, 2006

What?

Was all I kept saying as my dad kept repeating that Little Neil was dead. Little Neil, my cousin, we called him little Neil b/c he was a Jr. and it was funny b/c there was nothing little about him. He was a gentle giant, standing at about 6'5, he seemed he was 7' tall to me. He was the oldest cousin on my dad's side of the family. He had a wife and 2 beautiful children, Jenni and Jimmy. Jimmy was in the car with his dad, when at some point Little Neil lost control of the car and crashed. Neil is dead and Jimmy is on life support.

My dad gave me the news as I was going to church this morning. My heart just broke and the tears just started coming but I went on to church and sat next to a friend. Who let me cry in her arms for a minute.. I felt a little better...

There are so many random thoughts that are flying through my head so I hope you'll forgive my ramblings. My thoughts went to Neil's parents who are not in good health. My grandmother who has had to bury a son, a husband, and now 2 grandchildren, and possibly a great-grandchild. Something a grandmother should never have to do. The sadness I feel for Neil's wife, Bev who always has a smile on her face. Having to make arrangements for her husband's funeral and trying to keep hope alive for her son. Her son, Jimmy who is married with two children. My prayer is that God will let him live so that his kids will know how great he is and how great thier grandaddy Neil was.

I wish I could tell you that I was extremely close to Neil and his family, that we visited each other, called each other all the time, but that wasn't the case. I usually saw them at Family Reunions, but when we did see each other it was if no time had passed between us. That's just the way my dad's family is, there are no expectations, just love that stretches across the miles...

So even though the tears fall for us down here, I know that Neil is in abeautiful place, where there is no pain. I just want to remember little Neil, climbing out of his truck, and swaggering towards only to give me a huge bear hug with arms that were just huge. Even standing on my tippy toes, he still towered above me.and I can just see him bending down to hug our grandmother who stands at mere 4'10 tall. He was so proud of his family and we were so proud of him.

So I say goodbye to this gentle giant and pray for strength for my family. A family that has seen it's share of tragedy. But if there is anything that remains and keeps us strong it is the love of Jesus. I know He will give us the peace we need to get through this.. Amen..

Friday, April 21, 2006

Things aunty beachgirl will teach the youngins*

So one of my dearest friends Jennifer is preggers. She and I met a couple years ago and became like instant BFF (best friends forever, I know it's a little 3rd grade but it works for us). She is as country as the come but I LOVE HER!! We started referring to each other as white trash about the time we got tickets to THE DEGA (that's Talladega Superspeedway for those of y'all without any Nascar knowledge) ... It was so funny b/c here we were, two prissy Junior Leaguers going to our first Nascar race, we even went to Wal-Mart and bought Jordache (that's right, I said Jordache) skorts and tank tops to "fit in" with the white trash at the Dega... We had the best time at the race! Jen and her husband E are the most wonderful couple I have ever met... I loved hanging out with them but E got an amazing job offer in Missouri so within a month, they moved and I was so sad!!

Jen and E come back to visit and it's great, the last time they were here, they were talking about having kids.. Now Jen is preggers!! I could not be happier, she is having a girl no no less, which works out perfectly b/c our friends ray-ray and scar have a little boy.. You see where I'm going with this, they are going to meet, fall in love and get married, we will make sure of it...

So I have been thinking of all the things I want to teach Jen & E's little girl....

1. Love of sports, there is no reason girls can't love sports and STILL be ladies.. However when Jeff Gordon steals the race from Jr at the Dega, she should NOT throw her beer can onto the track..

2. Good hygeine.. she should always have her nails painted and her hair fixed... Now, if it's the third day without a hair washing and she's still having a good hair day, I will teach her to throw some baby powder in her hair to absorb the excess oil..

3. How to critique someone without being ugly...So when someone walks in the room weraing a neon green jumpsuit and white platform shoes, and it's NOT halloween, instead of saying, HOLY MOTHER OF PEARL WAS KC AND SUNSHINE BAND HAVING A GARAGE SALE!!!?? she should say, wow, that outfit is so YOU... then lean over to her friend and say "bless her heart, she just doesn't know any better"...

Oh there are so many more things I am going to teach Jen & E's little girl..I'm sure these are the days when I know they are glad they live in another state!

* YOUNGIN's- a southern term for children

Hope everyone has a great weekend!!

~Beachgirl

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

I know I'm going to regret this...

I know I am going to regret saying this but I am so freakin bored... I am in a huge lull right now at work and it makes the day drag out like taking a band aid off slowly (instead of ripping it off all at once)... and no sooner did I write that last statement when the jackass attorney I work with presents me with 4 new cases he's been sitting on for a week! He's such a freakin micro-manager and here's the kicker, I don't even work for him! He and I work for the same person, the big dog attorney (who by the way, I love, she is the best boss I have ever had), but he thinks I work for him... Delusional!!

I guess I better get off this blog and actually get back to work, now that I am no longer in a lull...

I hope everyone else is having a great day!

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

The Guy's Rules

A friend of mine sent this to me and I could not resist posting it... I'm anxious to see what y'all think about this.. Personally I think it is all true and HYSTERICAL!!

The Guys' Rules
---------------------------
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down Finally, the
guys' side of the story.
(I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules"
From the female side.Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1"
ON PURPOSE!
1. Men ARE not mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every
question.
1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That's
what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't Expect
us
to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the
ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one .
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will Be scratched.
We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like
nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer
you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear Is
fine...Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to
discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun INformation,
or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;

But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Monday, April 17, 2006

Fantastic Weekend


I hope you all had a wonderful Easter. Mine was filled with many blesssings, too many to count really. Of course one of the most wonderful blessings was having my mom here; here visiting and just here as in being alive. After what we went through last summer I could have easily have spent the Easter weekend mourning the loss of my mother, but b/c of God's Grace and the wonderful doctors that saved my mom's life, we celebrated Easter together. She is truly a blessing.

As I mentioned in my last post, my house did not pass the white glove test. But for the love of man, how could ANYONE pass her test?? I know I said I would be working like a Hebrew Slave, but I'm sorry to say it was the other way around. It's not that I just sat there and watched her work, but she is like a cleaning maniac.. Seriously, she's like OCD about it.. She cooked Sunday lunch for me and some of our other friends. It was de-lish... We had ham, green beans, cream potatoes, cole slaw, yeast rolls and some kind of strawberry dessert. It was so great having her here..

Another blessing to count is my friend from the 101st, I have mentioned him in previous posts, we'll call him RG came home a day early for his R&R. I was so surprised when the phone rang and it was him!! I had been worried that I might not get to see him while he was home, just b/c he has so many friends and family to catch up with.. But he wanted to hang out, so he drove down to Nashville last night and we went to dinner... It was a little wierd at first b/c I just didn't know what to say (I know, me at loss for words?? but it was so true).. We went to a little mexican place near my house and had a pitcher of margaritas, once we sat down we were back to normal and we talked about everything, just like we used to do... We left the resturant and went driving.. He has a SWEET BMW, we listened to music, and sang out loud to all the songs... It's like my favorite thing we do together. It seems so simple but sometimes it's the simple things that mean so much. We drove around for like 45 min or something like that, then we went back to my house. He showed me all of the pictures from his deployment. All of it was very interesting.. I just enjoyed hanging out with my good friend, realizing how much I really have missed him... It was almost 1:00 when he left. I gave him a big hug and thanked him for a wonderful evening... He will be home until the 1st, I'm not sure if I will get to see him before he goes back but it's fine, he will be home for good in about 4 months, then we will have all the time in the world to hang out and continue with our amazing friendship that is truly a blessing from God..

As I said before I have so much to be thankful for, and to an amazing God above I give thanks!!

Love y'all
~Beachgirl

Thursday, April 13, 2006

"In Your Easter Bonnet"

"With all the frills upon it, you'll be the grandest lady in the easter parade"... An Irving Berlin song made famous for the 1948 movie titled Easter Parade starring Judy Garland and Fred Astaire. I love this song and the movie and of course I always think of at this time of year, Easter (duh, like I would be thinking of this movie at Christmas??)... My mom is here and we are having a wonderful visit. We are going shopping for my easter bonnet today, momma doesn't wear hats, they just don't look good on her (her words not mine, but it is true). I am so excited. A new hat, a new dress, new shoes... All of these things for Easter, things that symbolize new life. I don't know what the weather looks like where you are, but it is BEAUTIFUL day here and the weekend is supposed to be even better!!

Easter means so much to me, it signifies new life (as I said above), the flowers are blooming, it's warmer (thank heavens) and of course it means so much to my faith. I won't bore you with all of the details, but this Easter is a testament to the growth in faith I have experienced over the last year. I am more filled with peace than ever before and God's blessings are abundant in my life.

One of the best traditions of Easter whether you are religious or not is the hiding of easter eggs... I used to love dying the eggs and decorating them.. My mom would hide them for me, my cousins and my friends.. Especially with my family it was like war trying to find the most easter eggs.. Especially with my cousin CF, he's 5 years older than me and he was more like a big brother to me rather than just a cousin.. Seriously, it was so funny, we would like fight over eggs!! Picking on each other is an art form in my family.. Something the younger generation just doesn't get. CF's sister TE, is a person I mention fequently in my writings. She is my cousin (obviously) but she more like my sister. In fact we call each other sisters b/c in our hearts, that's exactly what we are (ahhhh, I know, it makes you want to barf!).. So as we have gotten older and TE's girls have gotten older (with the exception of little man H, he's 2) my mom has started a new tradition. An easter egg hunt with plastic eggs filled with money!! It's genius! Pure genius I tell you! She will fill eggs with quarters, one dollar bills, five dollar bills and one twenty dollar prize egg!! So as I have said before, the younger generation is not used to our competitive and often times down right mean way of easter egg hunting... Last year, when TE, her two teenage girls and I were given our baskets and momma said go, I think I knocked down one of the girls to get out of the house and into the yard. Little man H who was one at the time, had no idea what was going on, but he was giggling and chasing after his mother (who by the way used to run track and is still pretty quick in her old age)... I think at one point she was like, "NOT NOW LITTLE MAN, MOMMY'S BUSY" she kind of yelled and he shrank back.. I know she felt a little bad afterwards but hey we were in the middle of a war, I mean an easter egg hunt...

I of course ended up with the most money!! But I won't be there this year, b/c obviously momma came here for Easter.. So I know she will probably still hide the eggs, maybe this year one of the kids might actualy toughen up and win... but my money is on their mother...

I hope you all have a happy and very blessed easter weekend!!

~Beachgirl

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

I am Woman, hear me roar!!

Last night after I attended a Junior League function at the Capitol and schmoozing with all my old legislator pals, I came home, went for a brisk walk, y'all know I don't run (unless of course I'm being chased), got back home, did some yoga and went back to the task of getting ready for my momma's visit.. In the guest room I had this beautiful wooden antique day bed that was in my great-grandmother's house. It looked so cute in there but was simply not practical for overnight guests. My momma, b/c she is tiny is about the only person that can sleep in that bed comfortably.. So anyone over 110 pounds and over 5'5 is just stuck with the couch downstairs... The bed is in 4 pieces the, two rails, headboard and footboard, it's acually very easy to put together and take apart...

I had decided that I wanted to put my futon in the guest room, to make it more user friendly. The futon was up in my attic, it had been taken apart and lovingly put up there by my main gay D. This gay man can do it all, shop with me, help me paint and fix things!! That's why he's my "main gay"... Well I had been putting off getting the futon out of the attic b/c there was so much work to be done in the guest room. Essentially that room had been designated the "junk room" for about a year now, so I had to do a lot of cleaning out before I could do anything... So finally I got the room cleaned out, and I couldn't call my main gay D b/c it was too late last night, so I decided to take the day bed apart myself, put it in the attic and get the futon out of the attic myself. AND I DID IT!! The day bed is tucked away nicely in the attic and the futon is in the guest room.. Now putting it back together is another thing but it's in there nonetheless. I had such a feeling of accomplishment!! I did it all on my own without the help of a man!! Now don't get me wrong, I'm not a femi-nazi or anything like that, I would have much rather a man been there to help me or just do it for me instead... I'm independent but I'm not stupid!

Another funny tidbit... I mentioned earlier my Junior League event at the capitol last night and schmoozing with all my old politico buddies, well there was one guy in particular I was visiting with that really got my attention. We'll call him C.. C and I worked together a couple of years ago, he was an intern, really sweet and SOOOOO cute!! I guess he's about 3 or 4 years younger than me.. Anyway, he went to work for another department and we kind of lost touch.. no biggie really.. Butlast night I run into him and he chatted for about 15 minutes, I asked him what was new, his response, nothing really... He kept telling me how great I looked (yes, I have slimmed down, and my hair is a lot longer) and kept on and on about it.. Ok, I get it, I look different, thanks.. So we parted ways, I went to talk to someone else, C was still about 6-7 feet from me, I kept looking over my shoulder at him and he was still looking at me.. This happened about 5-6 more times, so I know it wasn't my imagination.. C was totally giving me the eye and checking me out!! SWEET! So I asked my friend M who knows everything about everyone on the hill about him... I told her I had forgotten how cute C was, she smiled and said yeah, you should probably forget that b/c he's engaged!! WHAT!!! We talked, I asked him what was new, and his response, nothing much?!! WHATEVER!! When I get engaged, I want the first words out of my fiancee's mouth to be, I'M ENGAGED- especially when greeting a woman he hasn't seen in about two years... Just thought that was funny...

Love y'all more than my luggage!!
~Beachgirl

Monday, April 10, 2006

It's almost too much to take

Gallatin, Sumner County, Warren County, places you all had probably never heard of before last Friday. That's when Mother Nature's wrath came down upon these beautiful Middle Tennessee areas.. Gallatin and Sumner Counties are to the Northeast of Nashville, Warren County is to the south of Nashville. Friday was a very scary day for all of us here in Nashville. The storms started moving through at about 1:00. A lot of people I work with live in Sumner County, and Gallatin because the property taxes are a lot better there and these places are not that far from Nashville. I remember standing next to a co-worker Friday afternoon when he was trying to locate his daughter, they live in Sumner County... He was frantic but trying to calm his wife who was on the other end of the line.. My heart broke for him, but he then said to his wife, "it's only it's a house, that's why we have insurance" ... His voice cracked for a minute but he pulled it together in order to be strong for his wife... I was scared, the radio reports were just awful... all fo the destruction. Then the news came, fatalities. By Saturday, 12 people had died as a result of the tornadoes. My heart aches for those family members left behind.

The reporting has continued since Friday and I am so proud of my fellow Tennesseeans... We are called the Volunteer state for a reason. For the most part, people were extremely positive and appreciative of the help they were recieving. The overwhelming, theme was, it's just stuff, as long as I have my family and everyone is ok, that is really all that matters. But some people lost family members and I ask for special prayers for them.

I have lived in Tennessee for most of my life and I can never recall such devastation in one week. First West Tennessee, then Middle Tennessee, it's just awful. But my faith teaches me to lay our burdens upon the Lord, that brings me comfort and I hope that it brings comfort to those who have lost so much.

If you would like to help those effected please contact the Nashville Red Cross at www.nashvilleredcross.org or Second Harvest Food Bank at www.secondharvestnashville.org...

But most importantly, please pray for my fellow Tennesseans, even if you are not a Believer, please just think good and positive thoughts for these people.

Friday, April 07, 2006

Great conversation pieces

So there is more bad weather moving in to Tennessee today, we are already under a tornado watch.. Y'all know I take this stuff very seriously, to the point that I keep a portable(battery powered) TV/radio and small flashlight in my downstairs powder room at all times.. They are great conversation pieces.. When guests come over and use the powder room their first reaction is why in the world do I have those two obscure items in there?? Well allow me to explain..

I am all about planning for things in advance.. so if there is a threat of severe weather much like there was the other night, I am going to be ready for it! So before I went to bed Sunday night, I got my safe room (aka the powder room) ready.. It is under the stairs and it's supposed to be the safest place in my house in case of a tornado.. By ready, I mean I put pillows, a blanket, a little cooler with a diet mountain dew (b/c I cannot live without caffeine), a bottled water, and some yummy string cheese, oh yeah and another roll of toilet paper.. Remember that the TV/Radio and falashlight are already in there.. So it looks like I'm ready for the storm.. then I got to thinking, what if I'm stuck in here for a long period of time and the TV/Radio dies, I'll need something to read.. Well, if I'm stuck in there and my house has fallen down around me and I have to wait for rescuers, I'm going to use that time to get closer to Jesus, so I put the Bible in there as well.. seems like the practical thing to do. If I have in fact survived the storm of the century, I ought to be thanking someone, right?? Who better to thank than Jesus himself.. I'm pretty sure my minister would give me props for that last statement... I also remember to put my handbag, along with my car keys, cell phone and shoes in the safe room before I go to bed... I'm not kidding!!

Oh and I make sure to wear matching pj's to bed, not just a t-shirt or be neked (that's how we say it down here ne-kid).. God forbid.. If I am going to survive for a couple of days in that safe room, I'm going to look good.. There is no need to sacrifice good looks in the face of a tragedy... Who knows, it might be a good lookin single firefighter that comes my rescue... but my luck it would be some guy named Bubba with only two teeth, telling me how purty I was...

So when the sirens go off alerting me to a tornado touchdown, all I have to do is run like my pants are fire to my safe room (aka the powder room) and just wait it out... and maybe have a snack...

Love y'all!!

~Beachgirl

P.S. In all seriousness, if you all would like to help the recent tornado victims in West Tennessee, please contact The Red Cross at 1-800-HELP-NOW or by contacting the United Methodist Committe on Relief (UMCOR) http://gbgm-umc.org/umcor/news/20060405.cfm

Thursday, April 06, 2006

My Momma's coming for a vist...

Lord help me....my momma is comming for a visit. Now I know what most of you are thinking, that should be fun... Well not in the south!! When you're momma is coming for a visit your house better be white glove clean... For someone like me with a very active social life, that can be a chore, no pun intended... Now, my house is NOT dirty, it's just a little messy... There is a difference...

My momma used to say things like, "oh don't clean on my account" and I believed her until she finally had enough of coming to my house for a visit and working like a Hebrew Slave to get it well, the way she liked it. That was a HUGE mistake on my part.. It was a trap!

WARNING: DO NOT EVER BELIEVE YOUR MOMMA WHEN SHE SAYS NOT TO DO ANYTHING SPECIAL FOR HER VISIT... INSTEAD YOU MUST STOP WHAT ARE DOING IMMEDIATELY, GO TO THE GROCERY TO STOCK THE FIRDGE WITH ALL OF HER FAVORITES (including the little mini-bottles of chocolate liqueur she says she "only drinks on cold nights in her coffee at the tailgate parties")...

Side note: My momma's house is always clean and immaculate and it makes me nuts... I did not inherit her love of cleaning... When she is nervous or upset, she cleans... I look for the nearest pint of Ben and Jerry's and a sofa to crawl up on... This is really all her fault if you think about it.. when I was little, I never cleaned my room, she always did it for me.. It's one of the benefits of being an only child from a "broken home" i.e. my parents were divorced: GUILT.. Both of my parents carried it with them and I milked it for all it was worth, for YEARS!! That is until they caught on to my plan, well momma caught on, daddy is still clueless!!

Ok back to the story, so the last time she was here and worked like a Hebrew Slave, she pretty much told me that this was much like the Exodus and she was done being a slave... For fear she might bring down 7 deadly plagues upon me, I got the picture and am now working like a Hebrew Slave myself in order to make things perfect for her visit...

Now even if everything is clean, she will still come in and re-arrange my kitchen and other rooms to get it like she likes it... I don't fuss at her, because I'll just change it back when she's gone...It's a right of passage for all southern women to hope for the approval of their mommas. I'm pretty sure I have my momma's approval on many fronts, but it's a cross southern daughters carry, trying to please their mommas, it's a life long journey...

I am looking forward to her visit mainly b/c I'm drunk right now, and plan to remain drunk for the entire time she is here...I'M SO JUST KIDDING!! She will be here for Holy Week and Easter and I couldn't be more excited...

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

A bed of roses

So I have been obssessing over the fact that no one commented on my last post. I talked to my mom about it and her response, "honey, it's just too sad, people want to read about happy or funny things".... I thought about that statement for a while and then became a little irritated. No, life is not always a bed of roses and I wish I could always write about happy things because in general my life is great... But there are some issues and events that need to be talked about. Like the coal miner's in West Virginia, or the victims of Hurricanes, and especially my fellow Tennesseans, I have great concern when tragedy strikes... and asking for prayer is the one thing I can do to help...

I am not going to apologize for anything I write on this blog and from here on out I don't really care if anyone comments... I am writing this for me, no one else. We've all talked about how the blogs sometimes take over our lives, a good friend even deleted his blog b/c he said it was interferring with his everyday life... I totally get that. Just yesterday I deleted my comments from a friend's page because I felt like he didn't want me to comment there anymore. Simply because he has been responding to another bloggers comments and not mine... It's so completely ludacris and silly on my part, but he always used to respond to my comments but stopped recently and it hurt my feelings. Why did it hurt my feelings? I don't know, blame it on hormones, or the fact that I consider this person my friend and when a friend stops talking to you, it hurts a little... I'm sure he didn't do it to hurt me, and I'm sure he's not mad at me, but like I said, blogs make you lose your mind for a minute...

So if you want to leave me a comment, great, if not, that's fine... But just remember, life's not always a bed of roses and when a tragedy occurs you better know that beachgirl is probably going to write about it. Things like coal mining accidents, hurricanes, tornadoes or other unexpected events that occur break my heart because people's lives are turned upside down and they deserve our thoughts and prayers..

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Devastation

The Governor has asked for Gibson and Dyer Counties to be declared federal disaster areas and he will tour the area today, but that is of little or no consolation to those who have lost their homes, and family members. The following article is lengthy but it must be read in its entirety to even begin to grasp the utter devastation that is left behind by mother nature's wrath.
I think the saddest part of the article was how a father was going to have to bury his son, his daughter in law and his two grandsons. He will make sure to get oversized caskets so that the young parents can each have one son burried with them. A horrific task for any parent. My heart just breaks as stories like this one continue to pour out of West Tennessee. I continue to ask for your prayers during this horrific time in Tennessee's history.



'It took my life away'
By BRAD SCHRADE and LEON ALLIGOODStaff Writers

Trail of terror 25 miles long, 1 mile wide

BRADFORD, Tenn. — There is little in Larry Taylor's 43 years of tending to the dead in this small northwest Tennessee town to prepare him for the heartbreaking task ahead.
Sunday night's storm cut through the north side of town, ripping up trees and rooftops, but sparing his funeral home on East Main Street, before pushing onward across the cotton and cornfields that drive the economy in this part of Gibson County.

Taylor's youngest son, Brad, 28, lived with his wife, Tanya, and two young boys, Tyce, 5, and Kyle, 3, in a home on a beautiful bluff overlooking those fields. The brutal twister ripped apart their home, destroying it and tossing the family members hundreds of feet into the surrounding fields and brush, killing them all.

Now, Larry Taylor must prepare to dress their bodies and place his son and daughter-in-law each in separate oversized caskets. He must leave room in the coffins to bury each parent with one of the sons. The boys were Taylor's only two grandchildren — and he lived for them.
"It basically took my life away," Taylor said of the thief-like storm that came and left under the cover of darkness. "If you want to know the truth, I don't care if I see daylight tomorrow."
The emotions, raw and torn, yesterday lay open like the rubble of the homes crushed by tornadoes that cut through eight states Sunday night.

The furious funnel of wind hit Tennessee the hardest, with 24 deaths in Gibson and Dyer counties and 2,000 damaged buildings counted along the 25-mile path carved by the "supercell" of storms. More than 82 people were injured, including 17 critically, state officials said yesterday.

The death toll may yet rise as authorities continue to comb the rubble today with specially trained search dogs. The revelations of the deaths fell on the anniversary of the 1974 "super outbreak" of tornadoes that killed 50 people in Tennessee and more than 300 across the nation.The latest victim was found late Monday in the rubble of a home in the Dyer County community of Millsfield, officials said.

Among the dead were a couple babysitting their infant grandson, a young married couple who worked in Dyersburg and two sisters-in-law in Gibson County. But the identities of most of the dead had not been made public last night.
The Taylor family accounts for four of the six who were killed in Bradford, Mayor Ernest Pounds said.
Also dead in Bradford is a woman, identified as Patsy Cooper Lewis, and a sixth person who moved to town just recently, Pounds said.
The mayor said he did not have any information on the unidentified Bradford death, but said the person lived in a mobile home in the area. Larry Taylor said he expected to also handle funeral arrangements for Lewis, whom a commercial database service last night listed as 53 years of age and most recently of an address on U.S. 45-S.

'You feel everything'
First came the blackness, a sky that looked as dark as outer space. Then came the roaring, a malevolent rumble that grew in volume exponentially, louder with each second as it drew a bead on the small town of Newbern in Dyer County.
Betty Barham said her brother and sister-in-law, Eddie and Vicky Sherron, no doubt knew the Sunday night twister was headed their way.
She believes her little brother, 56, took care to protect himself, his wife and the couple's not quite 1-year-old grandson, Luke, whom they were babysitting. Probably they huddled in a closet or bathroom, Barham conjectured, tear droplets tracing the contours of her cheeks.
"But it just wasn't enough,'' she lamented.
"The house is gone. They're gone. Their son found all three of them. They were lying out here in the yard, lying side by side in the mud. It just breaks our heart."
Broken hearts and broken bones, there are plenty of both in Dyer County, where 16 people lost their lives and about 60 others were injured Sunday night in a tornado whose wildly twisting funnel followed the lay of the land for about 10 miles through the county.
Every person, tree, cow, home, business, church and car that was within the twister's one-quarter to one-half mile corridor became matter for the howling winds to hurl about at will.
"The homes where the victims were found were totally destroyed. There's nothing left but the foundations. The power of this storm was something to see,'' said a tired Sheriff Jeffrey Holt yesterday afternoon.
All were accounted for at 1607 Biffle Road, home of Billy and Betty Sisk, and their two children, Erica, 13, and Brandon, 10.
Accounted for. Betty Sisk said she didn't fully understand the expression until Sunday night's storm plucked her and her two children from the closet of their home, where they had prayed and linked arms as the tornado came closer.
"You could feel the walls start popping and hear the glass breaking and you could actually feel it when it took us up. You could feel everything just falling apart,'' she said yesterday afternoon as family and friends sorted through the remains of their three-bedroom, two-bath home for mementoes and valuables.
Mother and children sailed through the air, landing about 50 feet from the front door, on what used to be the front door, she said.
"Everything just falls apart in front of you. You can feel stuff hitting you, flying by you, you just feel everything, the dirt slapping you in the face, you feel everything."
As the tornado moved the trio outside, the brute force wind wedged Erica from the mother's frantic armlock.
"I thought I had lost her. It pulled her away from me. She had to crawl back to us, and finally, I was able to grab her hand and pull her to me. I didn't let go,'' Betty Sisk said.
"The storm took 20 years of stuff, but my most precious possessions are still here — that's my kids."
After the tornado passed over them, she said she rose from the mud and called for the Sherrons, her next-door neighbors.
"Eddie," she shouted. "Eddie."
There was no reply.

Searching until daylight
Larry Taylor held back tears as he stood in his driveway in Bradford yesterday, describing the horrific night before. Over his shoulder lay a large pecan tree that once shaded his back yard. It had been ripped by its roots from the ground.
Taylor said his wife spoke to their son by telephone 10 minutes before the storm hit Sunday night. Golf-ball-sized hail had been pelting the family's home and beating down on Brad Taylor's truck.
Larry Taylor said his wife told their son to be careful and "watch himself." She huddled inside their home, which is about three miles away, while Larry Taylor stood in the carport to see the storm through.
After the storm passed, he couldn't get through to his son on the phone. He tried to drive to the son's house, but trees and power lines blocked the way. It took him three hours to get there on back roads — and when he got there, the house was gone.
"If it hits right, it doesn't matter where you are," Larry Taylor said. "You can be in a bathtub or closet, it doesn't matter. I ain't found their bathtubs. I ain't found anything. It's bare lot."
Larry Taylor's other son, Tim, also lost his home. He is the fire chief for the city fire department — a volunteer force of about 30. The chief was out at his brother's home, along with other rescuers searching for the family Sunday night.
They couldn't find them and were about to give up until daylight, Larry Taylor said, when they found Brad's body. He was hundreds of yards away, the father said. They then found Brad's wife and the two grandchildren.
Larry Taylor said his son, the fire chief, would not let him see the bodies. They were sent to a funeral home in Jackson for initial burial preparations, but Taylor said yesterday that he expected to see them soon.
"I'll see them tomorrow," he said. "I'm gonna dress them. I have to. It's peace of mind."

'Like that'
A few miles away from the Sisks' home, in the hard-hit community of Millsfield, Mary McQuarters rode out the storm at her brother's home next door to her own. His was heavily damaged. Hers was gone.
"It's just vanished. It's somewhere out there,'' she said, pointing across the road from her house, toward a stand of hardwoods twisted and bent.
"It's just so unreal that this happened. If you could have heard the roaring you would have thought, 'Well, this is it. This is the last thing I'm going to do.' If I had been home eating supper, instead of eating supper with my brother, that might have been my story,'' McQuarters said.
The Wal-Mart employee said she counted the deaths of seven friends in the storm. "This just hurt us so hard. A number of good people just taken away, like that," she said.
As the sun was going down yesterday, McQuarters and other family members were searching through the rubble of her home for anything of value. A friend called Mary's name.
"Lookee here,'' he said, holding a .22-caliber lever-action rifle.
"Oh, Lord, that's Daddy's gun that he won at the coon hunting club,'' said McQuarters, her voice choking.
She had never been attached to the gun, the woman said, until the storm hid it under 4 feet of broken two-by-fours and insulation and wallboard. For some reason she had thought of it several times yesterday. When it was found, emotion got the best of her.
"I'm going to rebuild. Hard as that's going to be, I'm going to rebuild right here. This is family land. That's the church, Christ United Methodist Church, that I go to right over there,'' she said, pointing down the street to a building whose walls have collapsed.
"We'll rebuild there, too. This is home. You don't just leave home."

Monday, April 03, 2006

This is not funny anymore..

Last night as was having dinner with friends and watching Desparate Housewives and my fave, Grey's Anatomy, the weather folk kept breaking in to programming to tell us about these "super cells" in West Tennessee. We all started cracking jokes about the excitement we could hear in their voices... You know how weather folk can reach almost orgasmic heights when it comes to severe weather of any kind... Because DH and Grey's are such popular shows, commercials were used to break in to update us on the severe weather... but that seemed petty after the next report came in.

Fatal, I hate that word... I don't really guess anyone likes it. But when that word was used last night to describe one of these "super cells" that ended up producing a tornado, I said, this is not funny anymore.

Twelve, the number of people reported killed by tornadoes in Dyer County Tennessee, Five the number reported killed in Gibson County Tennessee... The number is expected to rise as search and rescue teams go out today.. Sometimes daylight brings joy and happiness, today it was just an extension of the sadness and horror of last night's storms...

I ask for your prayers today for my fellow Tennesseans as they pick up the pieces of their tattered lives. Be thankful for your homes, your children, your family and your own lives because in an instant, they can all be gone...